I’ve decided to start a blog. Mainly as a way of healing… a way of coping with my husband’s death. John passed away 3 weeks ago, yesterday from melanoma.
John was the love of my life and the two of us had an awesome relationship. We met on a blind date set up by our friends, Wendy & James. That was on my birthday, August 30th, 1997. From there we started dating, had a long engagement, bought our property, built our house, got married on September 17, 2005, and gave birth to our son, Nathaniel, on July 16, 2008. In John’s own words, “life was really great till a few months ago.”
John was first diagnosed with melanoma in Dec 2006. He had successful surgery that removed the tumor in Jan 2007. We breathed a sigh of relief and thought we had beaten cancer. Then in September 2008 during a routine checkup his doctor discovered a lump… Columbus day 2008 John had surgery to remove the effected lymph node. Again we breathed a sigh of relief… we thought we’d beat cancer twice. Little did we know that in February his cancer would progress to stage IV and become terminal in a few short months.
I’m starting this blog as a way to hopefully help my broken heart to heal, to remember fond memories of John that I can someday share with Nathaniel, and to help myself move on with life.
So… that’s an introduction… time to put kiddo to bed… every night when I put Nathaniel to bed, I tell him, “Mommy & Daddy love you, forever, and ever, always.”
Mary,
You are an amazing person with such inner strength. I have to say, John let a lot more behind then you think. These computer skills that you have are very impressive. I love the widgits and could not have done this.
Nathaniel will look back and see these undated blobs and will gain the strength that you both have.
Please know that you, John and Nathaniel are thought of often.