My heart goes out…

I just want to say that my heart goes out to my friend, Crystal, who recently lost her husband, Mark, after a long illness.  After losing a beloved spouse, you never want anybody to go through the pain that you’re experiencing.  Especially a friend.

In reality, just about half of happily married people will face losing their spouses.  There are a few who will die together, but typically somebody will go before the other.  It’s a fact of life.  It’s just the way death is.

If you believe in Heaven then it is worse to be the one left behind.  The person who left is “in a better place.”  But, I also struggle with what better place is there for a wonderful father than to be with his son and wife.

Most people don’t lose their dearly loved spouses when they are in their 20s, 30s, or 40s.  It is a different experience to have a life stolen versus a long and complete life.

Grief is an experience personal to each and every person who experiences it.  I wish my friends, family, and myself didn’t have to battle grief.

My heart also goes out to my friend Mary Beth and her husband Colin.  Two years and a few days ago, they lost their son, Tracy.  I don’t even want to comprehend the pain of losing a young child who had his whole life ahead of him.

Sometimes life just doesn’t seem fair… my heart goes out…

About Mary K. Smith

I was widowed in July 2009, when I lost my beloved husband, John, to melanoma. Cancer SUCKS. We have a young son who was just a year old when his father died. I live on a small farm in Maryland which is home to horses, cats, and a dog. I started this blog as a way for me to heal, a way to remember my husband, and eventually I'd like to share it with our son so he can see the love that his father had for him, the love that we had for each other, what a great person his father was, and how hard his father fought to live.
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