Astrology

John and I had a few conversations about astrology.  We found it interesting how a good number of the traits were right on… others not so much.

John was a scorpio.  The quoted data is from:  http://zodiac-signs-astrology.com/

Strengths of a scorpio are described as:

  • Loyal
  • Passionate
  • Resourceful
  • Observant

Yep, that was John.

Weaknesses not so much

  • Jealous
  • Obsessive
  • Suspicious
  • Manipulative
  • Unyielding

The only one that fits John was unyielding.  John knew what he wanted and he’d do things in his own sweet way and on his own time schedule.  That drove me bonkers for the longest time, but when I learned to cope and deal with it made my life a lot easier.  I think part of the problem with so many relationships is that we try to change the other person instead of accepting them for who they are.  Don’t “hate” people for who they’re not, but love them for who they are!

Scorpios are fiercely independent. They are able to accomplish anything they put their mind to and they won’t give up. They are perfectly suited to being on their own. They are not social butterflies like some other zodiac signs and some actually prefer to live on their own that way there is never any issue of who controls what at home, they like to be in control.

Yep…  John was VERY independent.  I often think, if the tables were turned, how would John be?  I’m pretty sure he’d be doing much better than me and would pretty much be the same ‘ol John.  John was never controlling, but that’s not to say that he didn’t like things his way.  All in all,  our relationship was very much a partnership, but like a dance sometimes you need somebody to take the lead.  When that was the case, most of the time, I let him lead.

From the blurb on friendship, I disagree with a lot of it, but this part was pretty dead on…

The best advice is to be honest with a Scorpio friend and in return, you will gain an amazing friend you will never forget and who will be loyal to you and never make false promises. Their truthful and shocking sense of humor if different than that of any other zodiac sign and the Scorpio makes an amazing, powerful interesting friend that can be trusted.

Scorpio and Business

Scorpios make excellent doctors, surgeons, scientists and leaders, they are perfectly suited to any form of business that makes a difference in the world, greatly impacts people and society and a most importantly, Scorpio has to be in a power position, this is why these careers are suited to the Scorpio, they all demand one person in supreme control giving orders and leading a unit of people/practices.

Another section that didn’t fit like a glove, but these fit loosely.  In a different situation, I could have seen John being an excellent surgeon… he was meticulous and could even eat crabs and keep his fingers clean!  Firefighter is definitely a career where somebody makes a difference in the world.  John unfortunately never got to rise very far in his career… although I have no doubt that he’d be a lieutenant right now if it weren’t for the cancer.  In CFCRS he reached the rank of captain and was on many important committees.  When given the opportunity he took charge of the situation and handled it appropriately in a no-nonsense sort of way.  He hated firehouse politics.  He just wanted to do his thing and do it right and expected that others do the same.  He loved being a firefighter and was never stagnant.  He spend countless hours reading, researching, participating on online forums, and taking training classes to be a better firefighter.

Scorpio and Temperament

Scorpios are extremely ambitious, persistent and determined which is shown through a power hungry, controlling attitude. Not in a stubborn sense however, because a Scorpio will work for what they want and control will justified reasons. This is obvious to any onlooker. A Scorpio never gives up, they are so determined to reach their goal. The key to this success is their flexibility. They are able to re-survey a situation and take a different approach if necessary. This makes them very adaptable and versatile. Scorpios are fierce competitors, combined with their powers of observation and their excellent memory, they will recall facts and when necessary, bring them to the table at the time of need. They will win justly, with proper facts and arguments to support their thoughts and opinions. Scorpios are excellent at restoring order to a chaotic situation and they are just as capable of manipulating for their own greed and benefit. The un-evolved Scorpio is a very dangerous person because they use their powers to benefit only them and step on other people in order to satisfy their own greed.

John was never willing to settle.  Thinking back, he pretty much accomplished most everything he wanted to, except for what he couldn’t because his life was cut so short.  For example, he knew what he wanted in a house.  He picked out the plans (got my stamp of approval).  We couldn’t afford to build right away, so we saved money and waited… and finally we were able to build the house that he dreamed of.  Not that our house is fancy or extravagant… it is what we wanted… and was perfect for us.

Scorpio Deep Inside

Scorpio is the most misunderstood of all astrology signs. They are all about intensity and contradictions. They like to be aware of a situation and always know what’s going on, figuring this out with their probing mind, on the other hand, they are interested in the occult, the paranormal, conspiracy theories and other types of similar unknown mysteries. They are very capable of hiding their true feelings and motivations, they often have ulterior motives or a hidden agenda.
Scorpios are all about control, they need to be in control at all times. To be out of control is very threatening, even dangerous to the Scorpio’s psyche, when they control, they feel safe.
Scorpios are very emotional, their emotions are intensified, both good emotions and bad. Negative emotions of jealousy and resentment are hallmarks of this turbulent astrology sign. On the other side, Scorpios are well known for their forceful and powerful drive to succeed and their amazing dedication. Scorpios are constantly trying to understand their emotions through finding a deeper purpose in life.
Scorpios are very intuitive, but not as in a psychic sense, more as intuitive into the human mind, they have a great understanding of the mystery and the power of the human mind.

Scorpios have a fear of failure which they keep hidden extremely well, should their confrontation not be successful, or their career fail, they will simply use their adaptive skill to quickly move and and leave the bad experience behind. Do not ever expect them to fess up or share their tale with anyone however because this shows signs of weakness and Scorpio always wins, they are always the self-proclaimed best! One of the reasons they seem like they always accomplish their goals is because they set tangible short-term goals that they know they can accomplish, they know what they are capable of and this is what they go for.
Scorpios are very weary about trusting anyone, a person needs to gain their trust and this gets built up over time and once all the ‘trust tests’ have been passed, Scorpio loves deeply and intensely. Underneath the cool exterior, energies and emotions are constantly flowing but the Scorpio deals with this be channeling this into useful activities, hobbies, relationships or a career. This is never apparent to the outside observer but knowing this fact explains why Scorpios are so passionate about whatever it is that they are undertaking. Scorpios have powerful instincts and they trust their own gut feeling which is another reason why a Scorpio seldom fails.
The ongoing lesson in life for those born under the Scorpio zodiac signs, is to channel their powerful energy into positive goals and not succumbing to the darker forces in life such as manipulation and greed, they will then have great success in their life and have a clean, happy conscience and a circle of friends they can trust and hold dear to them.

Well, I don’t know that all of that holds true.  I can tell you that John was fascinated by ghost shows- his favorite being “Ghost Hunters.”  He frequently watched the History Channel and watched a lot of the conspiracy shows.  When I first met him, he had a whole series of books, I think from Time Life, about UFO’s etc.  For most of the time that I knew John he was very unemotional and didn’t share his feelings.  Of course, he was a man 🙂  I also think his careers had a lot to do with things… working for the police and fire departments there are many confidentiality requirements.  You also saw things that you didn’t necessarily want to come home and burden your family with.  After we had Nathaniel, John opened up a lot and was the happiest I’d ever seen him.  They say, “having a baby changes, everything.”  In John, it certainly did and all for the better.

From there the astrology site goes into dating and sex.  Sorry, ladies and gentlemen, one of the traits of a virgo is being prudish and old-fashioned, so I’m not sharing with the internet world.  I’ll just leave it at we were pretty darn perfect for each other and man, do I miss it…

It’s just funny how much John fit to his sign.  He agreed, in fact, he’s the one who brought up the conversation!

Just for fun… here’s mine… if anybody wants to comment, feel free…

Virgo Strength Keywords:

– Analytical
– Observant
– Helpful
– Reliable
– Precise

Virgo Weakness Keywords:

– Skeptical
– Fussy
– Inflexible
– Cold
– Interfering

Virgo and Independence:

Virgo is a very independent zodiac sign. They are fully able to put their intelligence to use and get things done for themselves. It is possible however that their narrow mindedness causes their creativity to suffer and they may lead regular routine lives. They may dwell too much on the past and over complicate things and this may limit their ability to move forward and confuse themselves. In conclusion, Virgos are able to be independent but the less evolved types will have difficult if someone is not there helping them to achieve more and not be so critical of themselves.

Virgo and Friendship:

People look up to Virgo for friends because they are straight thinkers and solve problems logically. They are truthful, loyal and determined. Some people might find them cold or emotionally detached because they live in their minds, not in their emotions and feelings. It might be hard to pin down how a Virgo friend is feeling because they easily live in denial. A person who is able to read deep into another person will notice when Virgo is not well but if they confront them about it, they would rather retreat then talk about it. It is best to keep your emotional distance from a Virgo friend unless they open up to you first. Virgo might try to analyze and control a friend’s life but only with the idea that they will improve their life, not purely for the sake of controlling. Be patient with your Virgo friend and understand that their recommendations are only to make your life better.

Virgo and Business:

Virgos are very intelligent, they have an excellent memory and a highly analytical mind. This makes them good investigators and researchers. They also have the ability to probe into a person’s emotions and they can often see into people and detect what their motives are. This makes them great policemen or interrogators. Virgos are very good at problem solving, this is what they do best. They are confronted with a problem, they will pick apart the pieces and put it together in the proper order. They are rational thinkers and are good at settling other people’s disputes and putting them on the right track for reconciliation. Any position that requires the above features, which is a very long list, is perfect for the Virgo. They keep the world in order.

Virgo Temperament:

Before a Virgo plunges into anything, from a problem to a vacation idea, they need to analyze all the facts and know all the details before they plunge in and make a decision. This makes them seem indecisive and slow. Virgo’s perception is their reality, more so then other astrology signs. What they believe is what will be, if they have a negative outlook on life, things will present themselves to be negative and they will be very moody and isolated/detached. If they are positive, the same events that occur will be held in a positive light and they will be a pleasant, well adjusted person. A Virgo mind is a very powerful mind and they must have the proper attitude for their life to be happy and successful. Virgo needs to get in touch with their feelings, this is why they usually seem cold or detached. They are very prone of living in denial. They will say the feel okay or everything is alright even when it’s not. This is an easy way out, the one thing that Virgo does not like to analyze is their feelings so pretending everything is okay is a good defense mechanism for not having to take a closer look at their feelings. Virgo has an unpredictable and sometimes unstable temperament.

Virgo Deep Inside:

They need to be organized in their mind, sometimes all their energy is taken from organizing their mind that they have a difficult time organizing their surroundings. They easily look too deep into an issue and over analyze what they percept. Virgo is ambitious and strives to always know more and have more. This is in their eternal quest to bring order to chaos. Even if order is obtained from an outsiders’ point of view, Virgo will not be settled for they have a very active mind that is always thinking and can never be silenced. Virgos want to be of use, they need to be important and essential to everyone in their lives and in everything they do. Virgo’s major life lesson is to learn to trust in and have faith in the unknown. They have to understand that things in life happen for a reason that is not always known to them, they do not have to always know everything. They need to learn to calm down and not over-analyze a situation or event. Deep inside, Virgo is very sensitive and they need to be appreciated for all the things they do. When is Virgo is offended or hurt, they may never show it.

Virgo in a Nutshell:

Virgo exists in the mind, everything is inside. To the world, Virgo presents a calm and collected exterior but on the inside, nervous uncontrolled intensity in the mind, trying to figure things out, how to improve everything, analyzing and thinking. Virgo can tire itself out without even moving! Virgo has a constant drive to improve and perfect, this can lead to extreme pickiness and finickiest. They are pure, their motives are honest never malicious and they want to accomplish something.

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About Mary K. Smith

I was widowed in July 2009, when I lost my beloved husband, John, to melanoma. Cancer SUCKS. We have a young son who was just a year old when his father died. I live on a small farm in Maryland which is home to horses, cats, and a dog. I started this blog as a way for me to heal, a way to remember my husband, and eventually I'd like to share it with our son so he can see the love that his father had for him, the love that we had for each other, what a great person his father was, and how hard his father fought to live.
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