Conversation with an old widow

Today, I talked to an 86 year old woman who was quite a character.  She had fraud on her account and had called back with some questions.  I helped her out and added a password.  I then asked her if she needed a reminder phrase and she said no and explained that her password was her husband’s birthday, but he was deceased now so it didn’t matter.  Clearly it was a password she’d remember.

I offered my condolences and told her that I’d lost my husband, too.  She expressed her condolences and then shared a story with me.  She volunteers at a hospital and when she returned for the first time after her husband had died, one lady there was over the top in expressing condolences and how sorry that she was that the she had lost her husband.

The widow replied, “I haven’t lost him, I know exactly where he is.”

I had a good chuckle out of it.  It’s better to laugh than to cry.

Before our conversation ended she mentioned that the shower is the best place to cry because you’re already all wet.  She made me smile again.  Obviously, she’d done her share of crying but was still smiling and laughing!  What a character, she was and a pleasure to talk to.



About Mary K. Smith

I was widowed in July 2009, when I lost my beloved husband, John, to melanoma. Cancer SUCKS. We have a young son who was just a year old when his father died. I live on a small farm in Maryland which is home to horses, cats, and a dog. I started this blog as a way for me to heal, a way to remember my husband, and eventually I'd like to share it with our son so he can see the love that his father had for him, the love that we had for each other, what a great person his father was, and how hard his father fought to live.
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